Relationship Tarot | What is holding you back from finding love?


Lavanya Arora

10/21/20226 min read

There is only one person who can stop you from finding love, and that person is you. In other words, your fears and anxiety. fears of not being appreciated, accepted, or loved back; fears of not being able to fully commit to someone; fears of not living up to expectations; fears of being betrayed; fears of not having enough to offer.

The examples are endless.

We'll do almost anything to avoid suffering. When we fear for our safety, it can be tempting to wish we didn't give a damn about being wounded. Fear of pain is at the root of our desire for detachment. Or perhaps we really don't give a crap about that. This is, to some extent, how our brains are wired.

With the help of this general reading, I aim to help you figure out what's not working out for you anymore so that you may get a chance to think about it and make changes in yourself to attract the kind of love and life you desire.

Here's the table of content:

  1. Select your Card

  2. Find your message

  3. Need a personalised message

For an accurate relationship tarot reading, you need to calm your mind. Please close your eyes and take two deep breaths and now choose the card number which instinctively draws your attention.

Note - This is a general reading and might not be personalized to your situation. For a personalized reading, click here

Select your card

Find your message

Choice 1 - Knight Of Wands

You are warm and endearing, but if someone tries to control you or you feel like they are restricting your freedom in any way, you can become cold and uncaring.

You are the type of person who "thinks later, acts first." When looking for love, you might be impulsive and impatient because you want everything to go according to your plans. You are enthusiastic and full of energy, but you often jump into situations without considering the consequences. You may jump into situations and dramas, with or without being invited to, and then come to hasty conclusions. This can make you say or do things you shouldn't and get you involved in things that aren't in your business.

You don't always listen to good advice because you think you know best. Even if you agree to listen to good advice, you may not follow through or pay attention to it because you tend to be stubborn and condescending. You are used to getting what you want most of the time, which can make you act out in ways that seem to be too much at times.

When you feel or perceive yourself to be confined or constrained, it is common to observe irritability and ferocious outbursts of frustration in you. When things don't go your way, you get extremely upset. If this sounds like you, find a way to put your energy toward the activities that can drive you to introspect and grow on a personal level that will bring you closer to who you are and what kind of person you want to be in your life.

When you meet someone that interests you, rather than acting on it straight away, take a moment to realize and see if their beliefs truly align with your own and whether decision-making from your end needs to happen at the very moment. You may realize that you are better served by waiting for the right time to pursue this connection, so you can have more time to evaluate yourself and your partner's shared values.


Choice 2 - King Of Wands

You wouldn't want a partner who has a weak personality when it comes to relationships. You are attracted to strong personalities, but you need to learn how to treat them as equals. You have a tendency to be the boss in your relationships because you are used to being the boss in other parts of your life. If your partner has the same kind of personality as you do, there could be power struggles and fights that get out of hand when you both lose your cool at the same time.

You need your own space more often than not and want to be able to travel around without telling anyone or answering any questions about it. If you want your relationship to work, you need to tell your partner about all your habits and quirks so they can get to know you and accept you for who you are. You can't just assume that they will figure out, know, or understand these things about you on their own. You might be reluctant to share where you are or what you're doing because you see it as a restriction or as having to explain your actions and whereabouts, which makes you feel suspicious. If you don't like being asked questions about how you spend your time, don't expect your partner to do the same from their end. Showing love, concern, and responsibility is a two-way street.

You may have unrealistic expectations and distinctions in your mind with regard to personal space for yourself and your partner. If you and your partner inform each other of all these expectations and discuss them in case of any disagreements at the time of dating, you will as a couple have a very dynamic relationship with plenty of excitement, outdoor pursuits, and travel.


Choice 3 - Page Of Swords

You think that relationships are "airy fairy" and are not very good at going out and making an effort to meet someone. As a person, you seem like an intellectually curious person with a nervous, flitting energy that might be similar to anxiety.

You might be afraid of emotional confrontations and try to avoid them at all costs due to unpleasant observations and experiences in your childhood. As a couple, you would probably like to talk about other things than emotional intimacy. Your partner may also feel like you're not meeting their emotional needs. It can also be a sign of small or petty fights with your partner, which, if not dealt with properly, can lead to bigger fights. You may be protective, wary, and on guard even in relationships. But if you want a healthy relationship and love in your life, you need to let go of your fears around your partner and be patient and vulnerable, think before you speak, and avoid getting into fights or arguments that aren't necessary.

You hate unfairness and are a deep thinker, but you can also be blunt, insensitive, and a bit of a loner at times. You like to follow the rules, but sometimes your partner might want you to let things slide so that everyone can be at peace. By all means, fight your corner over the important things, but don't let small disagreements turn into full-blown fights. If you're waiting for news or a change in your relationship, it will take a little longer than you expect as you need to work on your fears related to expressing yourself and how you feel. Once you do so, you will have the kind of love in your life that you imagine.


Choice 4 - The Heirophant

If your family or religion has a "taboo" list of people you should never date, you'll naturally gravitate toward more conventional and mainstream potential partners.

Because of your upbringing, you have the propensity to stick within the confines of what could be termed a traditional approach. It's possible, then, that you might compromise your own personal values and beliefs in favor of those previously established by family and society rather than follow your heart. This can cause the chemistry in your relationships to fade. The relationship might feel boring and stale, even if you're with someone because it's practical or because you're attracted to one or two things about them.

Values and plans for the future may not align well if you're in a relationship with them. This may not be a deal-breaker, but it may require both sides to think about the situation and find a middle ground. You should be wary of taking anyone's advice, especially that of family and friends, on how to handle your romantic life at the moment. If you want to improve your romantic life, you would be better off thinking independently about what works for you and what kind of partner you want in your life.


Is this message personalized?

Since this is an energy-based reading, you must select choices based on your feelings and instincts. Moreover, this reading might be relatable only on a broad level, but it is not personalized. For detailed and personalized reading, write to me at or message me on WhatsApp here.

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